The Thought Experiment

3 Apr

Close your eyes.

Picture your favorite food.

Now, imagine yourself actually eating it…biting into it, chewing it, tasting it. 

After a few seconds, you’ll actually feel yourself salivating.

THIS is how strong and mighty your thoughts really are. Without even being in a situation, you can make your body think that it is actually happening.

The power of positive thoughts is invaluable. When things aren’t going your way, when you’re confused, when you’re down – stay positive and think positive thoughts.

This will help lower stress, lower rates of depression, and increase your physical/physiological well being.

On top of all of that, positive self talk will provide you with a clearer mind that is more optimistic and solution-oriented rather than focusing on the negatives and bringing yourself down, which let’s be honest, has never served beneficial for anyone.

So close your eyes, believe in yourself, talk to yourself kindle and positively and roll on through whatever it is that isn’t going your way/feeling right. 

S.K.

 

 

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The Marriage Crisis

27 Mar

I know that my posts never get this controversial but I feel compelled to write a post on behalf of my friends and anyone else who is struggling with their own crisis in the LGBT community.

So here are my personal opinions and thoughts on the issues of marriage equality for everyone, regardless of sexuality.

Though I am not super religious, I’d like to note that growing up as a member of the Sikh religion and attending Sikh camps every summer, the one thing that has always been consistently embedded into my heart and soul has been the basis for equality – between men and women, between religions (no religion is better than another), between races, between socioeconomic classes. And now, as we progress as an ever-evolving society/world, I don’t see why it should be any different for sexuality.

Even without this “religious” foundation, I look to my friends who are a part of the LGBT community and as someone who loves love as much as I do (my friends know), how could I ever deny a human being the right to share in the sanctity of marriage with another human being just because of sexuality? I can’t. I believe that a commitment one person makes to another person is one of the most wonderful, beautiful, heart-pumping bonds that this world has to offer. It’s only fair that every person who WANTS to make this commitment, under law and with the right to the 1,100 federal benefits to marriage, has the right to do so.

Faith is a personal choice, a personal journey, a personal relationship. I respect it. But I believe that we, human beings, have to evolve in our perspectives and choices about laws and rights the same way we evolve with technology. If you don’t keep up, whether you like it or not, you will be left behind. And the truth of the matter is that approximately 9,000,000 Americans identify as LGBT. 

“This isn’t an urban thing, this isn’t a psychological thing, this is life.“

With that said, I’d like to end by giving a piece of my heart to those individuals who are struggling with their sexuality, who are struggling with accepting their own sexuality, and those who are struggling with the non-acceptance from loved ones because of their sexuality. You are not alone.

For 11 other random facts about the LGBT community go here.

S.K.

 

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To Be Fearless

31 Dec

New Years day is my birthday. This year, for 2013 and my 24th year, I wanted to participate in a run to raise money for a cause I believe in — mental heath awareness and support. However, it feels like too little of a commitment for such a desperate need. So, I’ve decided to commit to pursuing my internal fears and acting on my desire for fearlessness all while raising money for a select few organizations that cater to mental health. 

This blog serves as a purpose to remind people of how important it is to be emotionally and mentally healthy. It offers advice, suggestions, and lessons that I draw from my own life. However, I’m now going to launch a new project that acts on mental health awareness rather than just talking about it. (Don’t worry, I’m not going to stop blogging here and trust me, 2013 has a lot in store for this blog.)

Anyone else who is even remotely interested can join me and together we can build a community of people who share their stories of what it means To Be Fearless (and for a good cause). I believe that mental health awareness starts with battling the internal conflicts.

Creases still need to be ironed out, but this is just the preamble. If you’re interested in signing up to be contacted when the real thing is launched please visit this site

Happy New Year!!!!

S.K.

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In The Grand Scheme Of Things…

18 Dec

I’m all about ‘carpe diem’… seizing the moment…

But as I grow out of my mentality of just living for now, I realized there is so much to be learned and discovered by living more deliberately.

Try to see the big picture and think “how would I feel about this 1 year, 5 years, 10 years down the road?”

Is this really something that is worth spending [this amount of] energy, fear, thought, worry, emotion or time on?

You’ll be surprised how big you’ve let the trivial things become….and also, how microscopic you let the meaningful things become.

Step aside from any situation and redirect your perspective as if you’re looking <<back on this moment.

How does that make you feel?

S.K

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Don’t Flatline Until You’re Dead

11 Dec

When you’re up –  savor it, appreciate it, love it and live it. 

When you’re down-  have courage, find strength, trust yourself, and know that you will get back up. 

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This is exactly why I started this blog – to remind myself and you that there will always be highs and there will always be lows, but you can’t really have one without the other. Don’t shy away from taking chances, or being vulnerable just to escape the lows. Truth is, if you don’t experience the lows, you will never experience the highs. 

Living just to allow yourself to remain on a flatline out of fear or convention is a shame and a waste. Live. To be alive is to live through the ups and the downs.

Don’t flatline until you’re dead,

S.K.

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Settling vs. Setting The Foundation

7 Dec

We’ve all been told, don’t settle, follow your dreams, reach for the stars blah blah blah.

Does it ever feel like you’re following and reaching and trying but you’re not moving fast enough or you’re not even close to where you thought you’d be right now? So then you think maybe you should just settle. And then your self-esteem plummets and self-confidence jumps out of the window and you question what you’re even worth or capable of….STOP…

Don’t get so discouraged-

You have to set the foundation for the things you really want. This may be mistaken for settling but it’s far from it.

So taking a job that’s not quite up to par for what you want to do isn’t settling. You’re setting the foundation of experience, skill acquisition, time and money in order to keep moving to where you want to be. Only if you stop working hard and trying to move up is when you’re settling for less.

Giving someone an honest chance to be your friend or significant other and them letting you down or mistreating you is only settling if you a)  don’t stand up for yourself or b) don’t leave the relationship if nothing ever changes. Otherwise you are just setting the foundation for what you know you need and/or want out of a friendship/relationship. (Remember: There’s something to be admired when people let others in their lives before making a judgement and when people give second chances). 

We all have lists upon lists of things that need to get done- within the hour, within the day, within the week..Don’t be so hard on yourself if you’re not moving as fast as you want, or not accomplishing things as quickly….All you can do is work hard, be genuine to your pace and progress will always be there. Don’t give up or settle because it’s taking a long time, or as Earl Nightingale said -“Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyways.” 

 

S.K.

 

 

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Be Honest With Yourself

14 Nov

In a post I wrote months ago, I discussed how sometimes the important thing is not knowing what you do want but rather being sure of what you definitely don’t want to do in life.

Now it’s time to take that same sentiment to WHO you are.

You have to be honest with yourself about who you really are. That’s the only way you can be true to your needs and desires. It’s also significant in helping you give up on things/people that make you weaker or don’t give you a chance to capitalize your strengths.

Accept what you’re not in order to love who you are.

Accepting what you’re not means accepting the things that you just can’t change, no matter how hard you try (and try, you will). For example, some people have to accept what qualifications they lack when applying to jobs. This doesn’t mean they can’t play with what they have done and have to offer. Other people have to accept what they require out of relationships. This will help them from engaging with people who bring them down or make them unhappy. And so on.

We spend a lot of time telling ourselves that we can be better or we can have what it takes. Some times, we’re right. We can always work to acquire new skills or manipulate our own traits. However, there are other times where you have to accept your character, your thoughts, and your feelings in order to shape a more realistic, and beneficial outlook on your life.

Knowing when to accept doesn’t result to any type of failure.

Instead of wasting a lot of energy to try to be someone you’re not, accept it and in turn, spend that energy loving and maximizing who you are.

Once you accept the truth about factors that make you YOU, it’ll reflect in your relationships, your self image, your goals and your happiness.

S.K.

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