In this day and age, we are more likely to have more than one dream. We learn to stretch our wing span over an array of passions and learn to be a “jack of all trades”. Some of us can enjoy more than one thing but be a master at none. Others can be great at more than one thing and then just not be able to decide on one. The desirable thing to do is to be able to incorporate all you love in your everyday life, but even then, how do you isolate one or two dreams when there’s a million things that make your heart skip? How can you “catch” the right dreams when there are so many distractions and things in the way? How do you even know which dreams you should be catching?
As I mentioned in Part One, sometimes we get distracted and veer off from our dreams only to be brought right back to them. In this post I am going to discuss dreams being taken from us, no matter how hard we wish for them and how hard we work for them.
Sometimes, you without a doubt know what you need to be doing and are meant to do, and it just doesn’t work out for you no matter how hard you try or with what combination you play your cards. If you tried your absolute best to follow a dream and it didn’t work out, then you need to remind yourself that it just was not meant to be. If it’s not something you can recover from (in most cases it shouldn’t be that easy to let go of it if it was a true dream), then you need to remind yourself that it just was not meant to be…right now. Easier said than done, eh? Let me provide some perspective for you.
Just because you’re not doing what you think you want to be doing right now, doesn’t mean you aren’t falling into one of your dreams. You just haven’t dreamt it yet. Some dreams don’t fester for long periods of time. Some dreams come to you instantaneously, almost while you are already pursuing it without even knowing it. When you focus on one thing, you fail to see everything else that may be falling in place for you.
As I mentioned in the last post, I have spent the last few years exploring a variety of potential dreams. Somewhere along the way I became a writer. I started using poetry as an outlet, I started my first personal blog which turned into a creative writing blog, I started this blog two months ago, I have brainstorm after brainstorm for a novel I hope to write, and all of this happened within the last 11 months. Being a writer wasn’t something I was reaching for, it was something that happened while I was failing to catch other dreams. Now, after starting this blog, I have been led back home, to my very first dream of becoming a psychologist. If I didn’t veer away from my first dream, struggle catching the next couple of dreams, then I wouldn’t have realized writing was a passion and I wouldn’t have started a blog that in two months has had incredible feedback from people all over the world, and then I wouldn’t realize I want to be a psychologist again.
If you’ve exhausted all of your options and can’t catch your dream, learn to let it go for a while. If it’s meant to be, or more importantly, if you were meant for it then you will be taken back to whatever it was you dreamed for. The next time around you’ll be stronger, more capable, and more ready. Maybe you weren’t meant to have that dream just yet because you weren’t meant to fail, but right now you just aren’t ready to succeed. Or, maybe you weren’t meant to have that dream because there is something out there that can’t even be created in your imagination yet. Maybe you were taken away from that dream to pursue something bigger and better, only to realize that you’ve outgrown your initial dream because it just won’t be enough anymore.
If one thing falls apart despite your efforts, another thing will most certainly be falling together. Find the other door that’s been opened for you, or the window, or the hole in the wall, and go exploring.