e·qui·lib·ri·um - A state in which opposing forces or influences are balanced
Everyone has heard “don’t let the fear stop you” or something of that sort. I agree, on one hand, but on the other I am not going to tell you to completely rid fear from your life. First of all, that is pretty much impossible and second of all having and feeling fear can actually be used FOR you rather than against you. Here is my list of what and why you should find a balance of feeling fear and being fearless.
Fear failure just enough to keep you in touch with the reality of not succeeding in every thing you pursue, but not enough to stop you from trying. Failing makes you stronger and teaches you lessons you can’t learn elsewhere.
Fear success enough to keep you humble when you do succeed but not enough to stop you from pursuing something. Success is a rewarding and scary change but something we all strive for.
Fear death enough to remind you constantly that life is short, but don’t fear death enough to stop you from living a life worth living. I stress again, life is short.
Fear vulnerability/intimacy enough to keep you aware of the consequences and the heartache that can be brought on, but not enough to stop you from giving fully or loving whole-heartedly. In order to feel the most amazing feelings humans can share you have to put your heart on the line. Take the risk, knowingly.
Fear change enough to understand that nothing is permanent or absolute, but don’t fear change enough to become paralyzed so you hold on to things/people you should let go of or stay stuck in place.
Fear illness, natural disaster and loss enough to haunt you to be thankful every minute of the day for every little thing. However, don’t fear them enough to let them cloud your healthy, safe, whole life right now.
Fear asserting yourself enough to maintain respect for others but not enough to compromise your own self respect. Don’t ever compromise your self respect.
Fear disapproval and embarrassment enough to force you to try your hardest, but don’t fear it to the point of paralysis. If you try your hardest and work your hardest and you mess up, embarrass yourself or don’t get approval from people then it’s okay. You can’t try harder than your hardest.
Fear making a mistake enough to check, re-check, triple check your work or what you are planning to do. Don’t fear making a mistake enough to the point of obsession and perfection. Life is imperfect and you will make mistakes.
Fear rejection enough to keep options open and to have a back up plan. Don’t get cocky. But don’t fear it enough to stop trying. You never know unless you try.
Fear accidents and sexual assault enough to be cautious and keep your safety in check (wear a seatbelt, don’t walk around alone at night, carry some sort of protection with you). But, don’t fear it to the point where you don’t drive or have a good time. Always take precautions and be smart.
Fear getting old enough to live young, be young, act young and savor young age, but don’t fear it enough where you just await it. It’s going to come. It’s inevitable, so accept it.
Don’t be scared to be scared. BUT don’t be scared to shove fear to the side either. You have a lot more control than you think, whatever happens outside of that you learn to accept, learn from and move forward from.
Stay fearlessly fearful,